Its easy to break but difficult to make......accepting new relations

           

              I was reading an article about a distressed newly married girl who was complaining about her life after marriage and yes a so called " in-laws " behavioral pattern. This compelled me to share some thoughts with you about this wrong belief that we have created around us.

             When a girl gets married a silent thought starts cultivating in her mind that is " Now I have to suffer " but honestly speaking the mantra is " Don't accept suffer , accept people around you."

              Acceptance

Its been observed that in most of the cases people have issues with their in-laws or vice versa (our in-laws have problem with us) it can be anything related to one's daily lifestyles, habits, likes dislikes, people complain, crib alot..etc. and the list goes on. Now we have two choices:

1. To keep on thinking ( ye aise kyu hain, woh baat sunti nahin hain etc) we discuss this now and then with every species around us and in a very ironical way we say that  ( main toh usko bahut pyar karti hun ya karta hun but woh aisi hain( she still has problem with me) etc...) so in this way we ourself discuss negativity and create a negative arena around us which leads to an extreme horrified situation .
2. second choice left  which I feel is the simple one is to ACCEPT a person for what he/she is.

In this way you will reduce the pain and energy you invested in being in the distressed situation. Like for instance; if you know that one of your family member doesn't like you and passes unacceptable comments so instead of arguing and creating an unhealthy situation around "ACCEPT" the person  and start loving his/her positive traits. In this way you will find more inner peace whithin yourself.

Just say "FULLSTOP" and pass on a big smile to this pessimistic thought. Trust me you will find a radical change whithin yourself.

          Friends Only one thought yes a single thought can change  relationships of years now its upto you whether to make it a debt or a beautiful bond.

Many times you must have heard people saying " ki hum kabhi nahin bhool payenge unhone hamare  saath jo kiya". But instead of recollecting these ill-fated thoughts if at this very moment you think and forget that whatever happened was past and I will forget and forgive everything and start a new relation with him/her you yourself and your immediate family will BENEFIT out of this as it is YOU who is carrying the agony, pain inside.

MORAL:

Before you FORGIVE FORGET first, ACCEPT and make your world, your family beautiful place to live.😃😃😃

           

Kasams that I want from you....

   

    I always believe on one thought that we all live for our family, our near and dear ones but never live for ourselves that we girls are a big time dreamer , we parallely live in two different worlds one is our fantasy world and the second one is our real world .  I have always seen myself as an achiever, a believer of making my life and others life meaningful . I don't know what I will become where my destiny will make its way , but yes one thing I always want that when I return back home ( will meet God ) and if Almighty ask me " what you did back on earth ? " I should be able to justify the same.

    Now with my above starting pitch  you guys must have guessed it correctly that what "Kasam" Am I going to ask my " Khasam " ( syn: husband in urdu ) ??

Yes you guessed it Right I want his support his participation in my dream. I dont have a dream to become a crorepati and arabpati as it doesn't sound patni in end , Lol!!! Just kidding .

I have faced lot many loggerheads in my career , still facing. One can say just looking out answer as to why I am here on earth , exploring life . I have lot many ideas but nothing concrete all intangible .

Only one Kasam I need from you is " Please guide me , direct my dreams , badly need your support."

Its painful to see your dreams being killed each and every day , you feel suffocated makes breathing difficult , you struggle to survive each and every with a hope that your dream will come true some day.

     I have seen my hubby has reduced alot of weight these days as for many days even I was not around him so he missed home food . But yes I want one more Kasam from him I want him to take care of his health , I want him to keep himself motivated and be focused on what he loves and aspires to do. You know if one is not fit from outside he doesn't feel happy from inside. 

     Few lines for you Puneet " I don't  beleive on the seven vows , seven promises pheras taken around the Havan Kund. The only one eternal vow lets pledge together that we will be more of companions and best friends for the lifetime. As you know papa always say " Ek dusre ka purak bankar chalo " "Become complement of each other " Let's vow again of being together and make our love eternal and pure. " I'm blogging about the kasams I want from my man this Women's Day with the #SadaSexy activity at BlogAdda "

Maa - a little granny

Maa - a little granny

     When I see lying her on bed helpless and dependent it just makes me feel reckless and torned sometimes I feel its unfair injustice to a soul who has sacrificed all her life sometimes for her husband , sometimes for her children , sometimes for her grandchildren and many times without reasons .

      She met with brain stroke 2 years back and since then she has been fighting with her immune , Few days back doctor diagnosed her with some more complications . She is having a stone in her gall bladder and also a cancerous tumor located in the busiest area of her body.

      She has become fragile and is tired fighting with these sea changes. Doctor has infused a permanent pipe in her nose from which she has to take all the food inside to be more specific liquid food. 

      Lying on bed she now smiles at every visitor sometimes she tries to cry tears roll down but words don't spell out. Numb , motionless at times she gazes , sometimes she recollects her childhood days and recalls her mother. 

      I would say she raised 8 children 4 of her own and the other 4 her grandchildren under some of most trying circumstances in life and also with some weird nature of her near and dear ones finally all are grown up and laying their part at best. Now when she could reap the benefits of her investments , sit back relax and enjoy her life, see her grandson's kids playing around and can feel how much her grandchildren love her, she is dazed and is now remote from this plastic world.

      Roles are now reversed, she needs to be taken care like a baby, fed time and again. Don't know for how many days she will take to recover but with all our support and love she will win this victory. Its been hard to share this but its a tribute to my grand mother-in-law, to acknowledge her sacrifice, her dedication and devotion.

Love you Maa and we all pray that you recover soon.......