Let's celebrate feminism by abandoning Abusive words

     

Mom you are my Originator and I Respect you

       Nowadays it has become a trend , a swagger quotient amongst the youths  . Many people feel proud to speak dirty words like (ma.....MotherF.... and behen... Fuc...) as a symbol of prestige and status. But there's always this thought that dwindles my mind time and again as why not words like FatherF and BrotherF are not so commonly used with the same intensity?
       

       A humble request to you all please don't use these words and also stop others from using the same. These are the weakest forms of expressions There are many ways by which we can express our anger and outrage let's desert this way.

Its Our thoughts that become words,these words lead to actions, and ultimately it is our Actions that frame our Destiny.

         Words portray your character your thought process. Have you ever thought why sexual crimes are rising sharply these days? The reason is we ourselves are polluting the minds and feeding the brains with such ill thoughts. Just think how will you feel if someone younger to you your sibling or your child adapt these words? It is we who are transmitting these filthy vibes to our younger generation. Friends " Be the CHANGE you want to see in the world. Start implementing it on self first "
         

         Today on this Women's day let's pledge that we won't be using such nasty words and will try our level best by conveying the same message to the people around us.

        One should not forget " It is a woman who has given you birth " At least for her sake let's take an oath to abandon such words that disrespect the integrity, the individuality of a person and to be more specific a WOMAN.

My perceptions about Sunny Leone...

      Last week I saw Sunny Leone's promotional interview on CNN-IBN with Bhupendra Chaubey. He posed out some annoying questions to her in a very nasty manner but Sunny tackled whole interview in a very sparkling and witty way .
   
Personally I was deeply touched and highly impressed by this young lady, the most googled celebrity of India " Karenjit Kaur Vohra " yes she comes from a NRI typical punjabi family born and brought up in a small village of Canada. She was working as a pediatric nurse , also she did a part time job in a tax consultant firm and at the tender age of 19 yr she became a penthouse model and slowly dynamically she reached the pinnacle of her business. Though her parents were shattered when they came to know about her career and they had to bear all the grunts and grudges and were excommunicated by the extended family and society around,

     Throughout this interview you will see her a loveable lady who doesn't disowned her past , she is not at all apologetic about her past decisions , she looked into the eye of the interviewer and replied to all sorts of weird questions cited to her.

     And this interview at the end removed all my preconcepts and blinkers about this lovely adult entertainer and made me feel sheepish about my observations and notions about this industry.
I just felt how at times people become an empty headed, nonsensical humans wherein on one side people criticize and blame her for spoiling Indian minds but the fact is they are the ones who are sitting on the smart phones and laptops enjoying her pornography when their wives turn their back.

Friends she herself admits that Pornography is just a fantasy , a crafted material . There is no message that I want to impart by this post but yes I have learnt one simple dictum " Don't judge a person by his profession instead start loving him as a human "

Just sharing link of the Interview anchored by Bhupendra Chaubey
http://www.ibnlive.com/videos/movies/would-change-nothing-about-my-career-even-if-i-could-go-back-in-time-sunny-leone-1190344.html
     

Nostalgic 90's

Sometimes you will never know the true value of a MOMENT

until it becomes a MEMORY

      The other day I was watching latest commercial Ad of Nestle , it shows some strings of old memories that warm you up with the feel of Indianness. Our past beats inside us like a second heart.

      My this post is a small effort to refresh you and take you to the journey of 80's and 90's , our some of the best fondest memories of childhood. I just hope it reminds you of those lovely days that will never come back again. I can't fit all on one page and there are possibilities I might skip few of them but friends this post is waiting for your clicks and comments. Enjoy Reading !!!

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When we were little kid most of us would hate eating chapattis and sabji. The Most easy to engulp food was  daal rice and I can bet it was your favourite too. Aloo sabzi , instant food Maggi, the mouth watering smell of samosa in school canteen . My mummy would sometimes give me money to buy from school canteen but I wouldn't have it and would return money to Mommy thinking that if I am saving Rs 2.50 of my parents and not wasting their so called " Mehnat Ki Kamai "I have done a great deal, Filmy but its true .We as small kids weren't pampered like today's generation and we would value and treasure even a choclate that we would get in birthday's from school.

By choclate word I remember can you recall below pics ......

Fake artificial cigarette- Kids especially Boys would  fantasize with this small mint stick . Kismi Bars - my brother  would always bribe me with this choclate and would never  give me one and Who can forget this  

  "Boom-boom boomer" jingle . And then those

 sticky tattoos of Indian cricketers wrapped inside the wrapper. I still remember it 2002/2003 when you would get those sticky Kaifs, Zaheer, Saurav, Dravid you know it was a world cup period. I thoroughly would enjoy watching cricket, I had collections of small posters and gossips written in one little book sort of scrapbook, My brother use to keep small poster collections of WWE champions like Undertaker, John Cena etc etc pics. He would decorate his scrapbook with different artistic designs as if it was a school project. Now I think how silly we were , completely insane but yes unique pieces of 1990's                                      

        These flavoured pepsi that we would get

at 50 ps and big one at Rs 1.And this icy cool Ice Gola with layers of flavours like kaala khatta gulabi, cola, chocolate etc. A kulfi thela ( cart ) with a ghanti " Tan Tan "

  

 

   In those days cable was not in trend , I mean most families would watch DD1 and DD2 . We had our sunday mornings preoccupied with Ramand Sagar's " Mahabharat " , Mowgli, . Also crazy funny couples in Shrimaan Shrimati , then Chandrakanta , our Indian Super hero " Shaktimaan", sunday morning Rangoli , wednesday evening "Chitrahaar" , Byomkesh Bakshi, Shanti and the list goes on.

                                              

     Earlier we would hear songs on cassettes , tapes , when you say radio stations so we had only one Vividh Bharti . I have heard many would record there favourite song, write and mug up there favourite number.They would maintain a copy of these songs and would revise and verse them as if it will come in final exam. When I take trip down the memory lane I also recall that many of us would say ki 

" exam paper mein gaana likhkar aaye hain , ya movie story likhi hain kuch aata toh tha nahin" Yaar I am feeling bad I missed this opportunity never tried it.  

                                                           

Do you remember Bollywood movie trendzz in that period , Govinda with his endless No.1 series, Suraj Barjatiya's family drama , Khiladi man "Akshay Kumar ", King Khan with his COOL pendant and the record breaking movie  " Dilwale Dhulaniya le jaenge".....endless memories. 

         Below are some of well known faces of Doordarshan news, when I was little kid I would try to make faces front of  TV screen thinking that the news reader will get distracted and to my belief I would left dejected thinking " ki kya concentration hain inka , inko toh sub pata chalta hoga ki kiske ghar mein kya ho raha hain, but still they don't get distracted and only  focus on their reading"
I know a hysterical thought but " Dimaag Toh bacha hain ji"

Lets come to some of famous commercial ads that have been featured since decades and the jingles will remain in our souls forever.
" washing powder nirma...", 

" aaya naya ujala chaar boondon wala" , 

" vicks ki goli lo khich khich door karo", "vajradanti (2) vikko vajradanti" ,

 " bole mere lips I love Uncle Chips", 

" Kya aap close up karte hainnn", 

" Paan parag paan masala" , 

"chubti jalti garmi ka mausam aaya", 

" excel world mein rahoonga main ghar nahin jaunga main" ,  

" school time action ka school time",

"lifeboy hain jahan" 

" vicco turmeric nahin cosmetic".....I know you must have started humming now. And this vicco turmeric Ad still you can see them in some movie theatres as fillers .Before movie starts girls giggling around in haldi function

 " hai kundan si (2) hamari bano , roop ki rajdhani bani hain bano" ohh my my completely psychotic . This Commercial surely deserves this tag " Bachpan se Pachpan tak"

There are still many in the queue , I can bet that if you ask to sing any of these jingles to a man in his last breaths , he will first humm and then die .

 Who can  forget Our super intelligent , man with brains " chacha chaudhary " and the body builder man without clothes " Sabu" made our childhood days wonderful , we would have latest collections of all these comic series...

                        


I can see a smile on your face ..... Friends I know there are lot many memories piled up in our mind' s eye and  to compile it in one post is impossible. So please drop in your cherished memories below in comments ...As Someone has rightly said "Memories of childhood were the dreams that stayed with you after you woke.

    

                                                                                                                                                                                                               

Don't dream your life , live your dreams....

                                              

       we are responsible,

      for what we are

           and whatever we wish to be,

            we have the power to make ourselves

          My this post is dedicated to those “ who believe , feel and want to make their dream come true, but somehow because of other priorities in life their dreams have been dispersed”

          I am reading  “ The complete works of Swami Vivekanand “ In this book what I realized that Swamiji’s  teachings , his works , his principles are all based on only two facts of life Humanity and Truth .

          In my this post and also in all the related post I will try my level best to relate his thoughts and facts with ours. I hope my small effort can be answers to your hidden doubts. And you know what even I am looking out solutions to many of doubts about life and also about we the puppets

          Swamiji  says “What we are now is only the result of our past actions and whatever we wish to become in future will be because of our present actions “

          Friends we all have some dream in our heart and mind , Like when I was young I would always dream to opt mass media as my career but u know how our family structure is, being a Marwari girl and living in a Marwari society where u are surrounded by businessmen , engineers , CAs .

I always feel that I did one mistake in my life I always would listen to others and not to my heart but you know what,  I can’t blame my parents , my surrounding my society for that as I didn’t had guts, daring to believe in my dream. Just because of my parents , just because someone doesn’t feel the same spark in my dream I changed my decision, my path of life and now I repent on my past decisions .

          I realized “what I am now is only because of my past actions and whatever I wish to become in future will be because of my present actions”

And so now instead of repenting I focus more on bringing my life back on track , Friends It’s not about Dreaming big, It’s all about believing in your dream and taking small baby steps in that direction.

          I don’t know whether my these words have the spark that burns your dream more clearly in your mind’s eye. But trust me friends, do what you dream, don’t stop dreaming else time will come when you won’t be able to dream.

You know what ,  “If you are not happy then you can’t make others happy “ 

And so here comes the answer to all your worries ,frustration,depression.To make oneself happy start doing small things that keep you happy from inside.

          Like generally  I have seen many of friends who have become housewives after marriage have a certain negativity in them as in they feel demotivated and complex with their working friends. So my honest suggestion to you my lovely , sweet ,cute housewives is please remove this poisonous thought from your mind that if you are without a job or u are not earning then you have spoiled your career or life. 

Trust me all men and women in a society are not of the same intelligence, capacity and luck. I know it’s difficult to accept but yes it is true. I will ask you one question Is this the only petty motive left in your life. Find out the motive energy / power that prompts you that can reanimate you / make you feel young again, start breathing new life , rejuvenate yourself …..

          If you love dancing join a kathak class , a zumba which is in trend , love drawing  join some  creativity class ….love music join singing class , guitar…etc; If you are a doctor by profession and now at home start writing blog or with the help of a techy friend make an app and share your knowledge to the world outside.

Oh come on !!!! 3 day a week not a big deal Right!!!!

In worst case chalo at least an hour a week ….

Now don’t give excuses ….like I don’t have time, My family won’t permit….etc,etc.

It is an excuse that you are giving to yourself not to others .Friends its only you are losing no one else. As someone has rightly said “ To advance we should have faith in ourselves first and then in God”

“ kal kisne dekha hain jo karna hain aaj karlo “

          My special request to youngsters who are choosing different career options and are completely confused  In Bold I would say “ Please follow  your passion , your dream, your eternal motive  trust me you will be successful in real terms“

          As what I feel successful is a person who loves his/her work and not the one who earns good but still not happy and satisfied in life