Its easy to break but difficult to make......accepting new relations

           

              I was reading an article about a distressed newly married girl who was complaining about her life after marriage and yes a so called " in-laws " behavioral pattern. This compelled me to share some thoughts with you about this wrong belief that we have created around us.

             When a girl gets married a silent thought starts cultivating in her mind that is " Now I have to suffer " but honestly speaking the mantra is " Don't accept suffer , accept people around you."

              Acceptance

Its been observed that in most of the cases people have issues with their in-laws or vice versa (our in-laws have problem with us) it can be anything related to one's daily lifestyles, habits, likes dislikes, people complain, crib alot..etc. and the list goes on. Now we have two choices:

1. To keep on thinking ( ye aise kyu hain, woh baat sunti nahin hain etc) we discuss this now and then with every species around us and in a very ironical way we say that  ( main toh usko bahut pyar karti hun ya karta hun but woh aisi hain( she still has problem with me) etc...) so in this way we ourself discuss negativity and create a negative arena around us which leads to an extreme horrified situation .
2. second choice left  which I feel is the simple one is to ACCEPT a person for what he/she is.

In this way you will reduce the pain and energy you invested in being in the distressed situation. Like for instance; if you know that one of your family member doesn't like you and passes unacceptable comments so instead of arguing and creating an unhealthy situation around "ACCEPT" the person  and start loving his/her positive traits. In this way you will find more inner peace whithin yourself.

Just say "FULLSTOP" and pass on a big smile to this pessimistic thought. Trust me you will find a radical change whithin yourself.

          Friends Only one thought yes a single thought can change  relationships of years now its upto you whether to make it a debt or a beautiful bond.

Many times you must have heard people saying " ki hum kabhi nahin bhool payenge unhone hamare  saath jo kiya". But instead of recollecting these ill-fated thoughts if at this very moment you think and forget that whatever happened was past and I will forget and forgive everything and start a new relation with him/her you yourself and your immediate family will BENEFIT out of this as it is YOU who is carrying the agony, pain inside.

MORAL:

Before you FORGIVE FORGET first, ACCEPT and make your world, your family beautiful place to live.😃😃😃

           

Kasams that I want from you....

   

    I always believe on one thought that we all live for our family, our near and dear ones but never live for ourselves that we girls are a big time dreamer , we parallely live in two different worlds one is our fantasy world and the second one is our real world .  I have always seen myself as an achiever, a believer of making my life and others life meaningful . I don't know what I will become where my destiny will make its way , but yes one thing I always want that when I return back home ( will meet God ) and if Almighty ask me " what you did back on earth ? " I should be able to justify the same.

    Now with my above starting pitch  you guys must have guessed it correctly that what "Kasam" Am I going to ask my " Khasam " ( syn: husband in urdu ) ??

Yes you guessed it Right I want his support his participation in my dream. I dont have a dream to become a crorepati and arabpati as it doesn't sound patni in end , Lol!!! Just kidding .

I have faced lot many loggerheads in my career , still facing. One can say just looking out answer as to why I am here on earth , exploring life . I have lot many ideas but nothing concrete all intangible .

Only one Kasam I need from you is " Please guide me , direct my dreams , badly need your support."

Its painful to see your dreams being killed each and every day , you feel suffocated makes breathing difficult , you struggle to survive each and every with a hope that your dream will come true some day.

     I have seen my hubby has reduced alot of weight these days as for many days even I was not around him so he missed home food . But yes I want one more Kasam from him I want him to take care of his health , I want him to keep himself motivated and be focused on what he loves and aspires to do. You know if one is not fit from outside he doesn't feel happy from inside. 

     Few lines for you Puneet " I don't  beleive on the seven vows , seven promises pheras taken around the Havan Kund. The only one eternal vow lets pledge together that we will be more of companions and best friends for the lifetime. As you know papa always say " Ek dusre ka purak bankar chalo " "Become complement of each other " Let's vow again of being together and make our love eternal and pure. " I'm blogging about the kasams I want from my man this Women's Day with the #SadaSexy activity at BlogAdda "

Rescue video of Lance Naik Hanumanthappa.

Lance Naik Hanumanthappa, was miraculously found alive under a 35 feet snow when an Avalanche was struck a week ago .

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/How-Lance-Naik-Hanumanthappa-Koppad-defied-certain-death-at-Siachen/articleshow/50925655.cms

      Wake up  Jawan !!! whole nation is praying for you . Shake off your coma....You have made it so far and reached Delhi Army hospital , Come on get up!!!! this is the last test and we all are standing by you .

      One needs unbreakable courage to guard these glacier borders where temperatures at times goes upto -200 degrees and patrolling 24x7 these freezy borders is itself an act of bravery.

      I heard many of my friends saying that what is the point in risking life of soldiers by deploying them in the Siachen . You know earlier for decades it was a tradition for Indian and Paki armies who would leave their bunkers during winters and neither of the armies misused this but Pakistan betrayed and took over Indian bunkers which led to Kargil war.

 

Hanumanthappa we couldn't save your 9 colleagues but yes a great salute to the men in your unit who must have a dug deeper down 30-40 feets hoping a survivor comrade every time and then left with disappointment everytime but yet gathering courage to look for next one until they found you Jawan.

   
My salute to you all men in uniform , your fighting spirit is much much taller than these scary snow clad dominating glaciers ....

We are waiting to hear from you Brave son.... Get up ..... every Indian longing to see you back in the battle field....

My perceptions about Sunny Leone...

      Last week I saw Sunny Leone's promotional interview on CNN-IBN with Bhupendra Chaubey. He posed out some annoying questions to her in a very nasty manner but Sunny tackled whole interview in a very sparkling and witty way .
   
Personally I was deeply touched and highly impressed by this young lady, the most googled celebrity of India " Karenjit Kaur Vohra " yes she comes from a NRI typical punjabi family born and brought up in a small village of Canada. She was working as a pediatric nurse , also she did a part time job in a tax consultant firm and at the tender age of 19 yr she became a penthouse model and slowly dynamically she reached the pinnacle of her business. Though her parents were shattered when they came to know about her career and they had to bear all the grunts and grudges and were excommunicated by the extended family and society around,

     Throughout this interview you will see her a loveable lady who doesn't disowned her past , she is not at all apologetic about her past decisions , she looked into the eye of the interviewer and replied to all sorts of weird questions cited to her.

     And this interview at the end removed all my preconcepts and blinkers about this lovely adult entertainer and made me feel sheepish about my observations and notions about this industry.
I just felt how at times people become an empty headed, nonsensical humans wherein on one side people criticize and blame her for spoiling Indian minds but the fact is they are the ones who are sitting on the smart phones and laptops enjoying her pornography when their wives turn their back.

Friends she herself admits that Pornography is just a fantasy , a crafted material . There is no message that I want to impart by this post but yes I have learnt one simple dictum " Don't judge a person by his profession instead start loving him as a human "

Just sharing link of the Interview anchored by Bhupendra Chaubey
http://www.ibnlive.com/videos/movies/would-change-nothing-about-my-career-even-if-i-could-go-back-in-time-sunny-leone-1190344.html
     

Nostalgic 90's

Sometimes you will never know the true value of a MOMENT

until it becomes a MEMORY

      The other day I was watching latest commercial Ad of Nestle , it shows some strings of old memories that warm you up with the feel of Indianness. Our past beats inside us like a second heart.

      My this post is a small effort to refresh you and take you to the journey of 80's and 90's , our some of the best fondest memories of childhood. I just hope it reminds you of those lovely days that will never come back again. I can't fit all on one page and there are possibilities I might skip few of them but friends this post is waiting for your clicks and comments. Enjoy Reading !!!

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When we were little kid most of us would hate eating chapattis and sabji. The Most easy to engulp food was  daal rice and I can bet it was your favourite too. Aloo sabzi , instant food Maggi, the mouth watering smell of samosa in school canteen . My mummy would sometimes give me money to buy from school canteen but I wouldn't have it and would return money to Mommy thinking that if I am saving Rs 2.50 of my parents and not wasting their so called " Mehnat Ki Kamai "I have done a great deal, Filmy but its true .We as small kids weren't pampered like today's generation and we would value and treasure even a choclate that we would get in birthday's from school.

By choclate word I remember can you recall below pics ......

Fake artificial cigarette- Kids especially Boys would  fantasize with this small mint stick . Kismi Bars - my brother  would always bribe me with this choclate and would never  give me one and Who can forget this  

  "Boom-boom boomer" jingle . And then those

 sticky tattoos of Indian cricketers wrapped inside the wrapper. I still remember it 2002/2003 when you would get those sticky Kaifs, Zaheer, Saurav, Dravid you know it was a world cup period. I thoroughly would enjoy watching cricket, I had collections of small posters and gossips written in one little book sort of scrapbook, My brother use to keep small poster collections of WWE champions like Undertaker, John Cena etc etc pics. He would decorate his scrapbook with different artistic designs as if it was a school project. Now I think how silly we were , completely insane but yes unique pieces of 1990's                                      

        These flavoured pepsi that we would get

at 50 ps and big one at Rs 1.And this icy cool Ice Gola with layers of flavours like kaala khatta gulabi, cola, chocolate etc. A kulfi thela ( cart ) with a ghanti " Tan Tan "

  

 

   In those days cable was not in trend , I mean most families would watch DD1 and DD2 . We had our sunday mornings preoccupied with Ramand Sagar's " Mahabharat " , Mowgli, . Also crazy funny couples in Shrimaan Shrimati , then Chandrakanta , our Indian Super hero " Shaktimaan", sunday morning Rangoli , wednesday evening "Chitrahaar" , Byomkesh Bakshi, Shanti and the list goes on.

                                              

     Earlier we would hear songs on cassettes , tapes , when you say radio stations so we had only one Vividh Bharti . I have heard many would record there favourite song, write and mug up there favourite number.They would maintain a copy of these songs and would revise and verse them as if it will come in final exam. When I take trip down the memory lane I also recall that many of us would say ki 

" exam paper mein gaana likhkar aaye hain , ya movie story likhi hain kuch aata toh tha nahin" Yaar I am feeling bad I missed this opportunity never tried it.  

                                                           

Do you remember Bollywood movie trendzz in that period , Govinda with his endless No.1 series, Suraj Barjatiya's family drama , Khiladi man "Akshay Kumar ", King Khan with his COOL pendant and the record breaking movie  " Dilwale Dhulaniya le jaenge".....endless memories. 

         Below are some of well known faces of Doordarshan news, when I was little kid I would try to make faces front of  TV screen thinking that the news reader will get distracted and to my belief I would left dejected thinking " ki kya concentration hain inka , inko toh sub pata chalta hoga ki kiske ghar mein kya ho raha hain, but still they don't get distracted and only  focus on their reading"
I know a hysterical thought but " Dimaag Toh bacha hain ji"

Lets come to some of famous commercial ads that have been featured since decades and the jingles will remain in our souls forever.
" washing powder nirma...", 

" aaya naya ujala chaar boondon wala" , 

" vicks ki goli lo khich khich door karo", "vajradanti (2) vikko vajradanti" ,

 " bole mere lips I love Uncle Chips", 

" Kya aap close up karte hainnn", 

" Paan parag paan masala" , 

"chubti jalti garmi ka mausam aaya", 

" excel world mein rahoonga main ghar nahin jaunga main" ,  

" school time action ka school time",

"lifeboy hain jahan" 

" vicco turmeric nahin cosmetic".....I know you must have started humming now. And this vicco turmeric Ad still you can see them in some movie theatres as fillers .Before movie starts girls giggling around in haldi function

 " hai kundan si (2) hamari bano , roop ki rajdhani bani hain bano" ohh my my completely psychotic . This Commercial surely deserves this tag " Bachpan se Pachpan tak"

There are still many in the queue , I can bet that if you ask to sing any of these jingles to a man in his last breaths , he will first humm and then die .

 Who can  forget Our super intelligent , man with brains " chacha chaudhary " and the body builder man without clothes " Sabu" made our childhood days wonderful , we would have latest collections of all these comic series...

                        


I can see a smile on your face ..... Friends I know there are lot many memories piled up in our mind' s eye and  to compile it in one post is impossible. So please drop in your cherished memories below in comments ...As Someone has rightly said "Memories of childhood were the dreams that stayed with you after you woke.

    

                                                                                                                                                                                                               

Hey friends join #ProtectHerHeart campaign with Saffolalife

      Someone has rightly said " You can only be Healthy from outside , when you are happy from inside "
      I am a happily married woman, I belong to a happy Marwari joint family. We have a culture wherein we get up early in the morning and set with our daily domestic chores. What I have seen in most of Indian families , a lady's lifestyle revolves around her prime responsibilities towards her family and in this busy schedule she forgets to take care of herself.
My lifestyle also resembles with the theory above . But slowly I have realised that it's all about how you prioritise your day.
   
      I recall My father-in-law's words he says that ' Our body is just like a car which needs fuel and maintenance time and again and if you don't take care then you have to payback the dues' . You know it's a give and take policy , if we work tirelessly day and night to achieve our goals with the help of our body then we have to pay returns to our body by keeping it fit and fuelling it with good healthy food.

     The initiative #ProtectHerHeart sponsored by Saffolalife is a kick-start awareness campaign towards our healthy lifestyle.I feel happy and privileged that I am becoming a part of this campaign.

Below are the day to day habits that I will try to imbibe in myself and in my husband:

1 )  I read in Rujuta Diwekar's book that the basic and primary mantra to keep oneself fit and healthy is that start eating in regular intervals that is in gaps of 2 hours . In this way you won't be over eating and also won't be starving for long hours. Previously when I was working in a SBI , due to heavy work load  I would starve for long hours and this actually resulted to obesity.

When I actually worked with this pattern of small interval eating I realized it does miracle changes.
Though these days Puneet (my husband) and I , we both are not regular with our routine but thanks to Saffolalife and Blogadda for your initiative.

2) Eating good amount of vegetables:

    Eating different types of vegetables is a must when it comes to diet planning. Puneet never like eating boiled vegetables daily ...so in our diet plan I have decided that some vegetable curries I can cook by using Saffola gold oil , my doctor has recommended , Saffola oils have less fat percentage and  controls cholesterol.

3) Walking , Yoga , meditation.

I have seen recent commercial of Saffola oil , isn't it lovely....Early in the morning walking with your loved one, isn't it lovely !!! We have experienced this  ...but I promise to continue with it. 

Recently I have learned some yoga exercises with the help of my neighbour and some YouTube links , its a magical way to keep your mind and soul in peace...I am not good with meditation but I promise to work on it...I have heard Its the best medicine to increase concentration.

4) Food tips : 

   a) Nowadays I have started keeping good amounts of nuts in my bag , they are just like a powerful little numbers that edge off the hunger on the way back home from work . They are just a tasty snack , 10 nuts in one serve.

   b) I am already working on taking good amount of water . I drink 2 litres everyday but my target is 3 ....Wanna beat me ??....then join the race...

   c) Restaurant meals: 

    I really want to work on my this habit and yes even I want Puneet to be serious about how to plan day diet when we are going out for dinner . It can be done by having fruits and some nutritional food in lunch and will never forget to exercise specially that day. This will surely compensate my extra kilojoules dinner diet.

5) Last but not least: My family

  I really want my family to accompany in this fitness mission and yes I know this can only be achieved by my initiatives... 

And so I pledge to join #ProtectHerHeart initiative and will make my and my family's heart happy and healthy.

      

Aarushi - Hemraj murder case - Has justice been served ??

         

              It was 16 May 2008 , one of the horrific night when a bright student of DPS noida turning 14 after 8 days Aarushi Talwar , was murdered her head was smashed and throat was slit . A day later second body of their servant Hemraj completely swollen and difficult to recognize was discovered at the terrace of Talwars house.

            My sole motive behind writing this post is that I strongly believe that this is something which  can happen to anyone amongst us .  There is a part of the society that strongly feel that Rajesh and Nupur Talwar are innocent and yes I am one of them .

            I have heard many people giving dumb opinions in this case, its a juggernaut where people have created their own perceptions and investigations .

Some say Talwar's were
wife swappers ,
Rajesh Talwar was having an affair
Aarushi was found in an unacceptable position with Hemraj and so Dad killed them.
Out of four Nupur and Rajesh were alive and so are culprits.
CBI say that Talwars didn't grief and so suspects

System has crunched the story in as many way as they can to make the Talwar's murderers of their only daughter whom they loved beyond anything.

I am not saying that I am 100% correct in what I am trying to prove by this but yes I can guarantee that this case has lot many loopholes.

So without getting into the Ifs and buts of this case I would directly try to bring certain loopholes of in this case .

           On the morning of 16 May 2008 when murder news broke , Talwars house was filled with lot many visitors known unknown  the complete house was swarmed with relatives , press, strangers. Each visitor was doing its own investigation  The biggest blunder and mistake was that the crime scene was not cordoned by the police so their were possibilities that clues swept away .

In narco - analysis test Krishna (Rajesh compounder ) showed deception in his statements which hinted that he had some connection in this case , Also when police raided Krishna's house they found a pillow cover which had samples of blood stains of Hemraj.
But later they were proved incorrect by CBI quoting it as typographical error.

Bharti Mandal maid who worked at Talwars place and who was also first eye witness after Rajesh and Nupur deferred from her statements.

Also since 2008 , three different CBI team have taken charge each showed their own versions of investigations in this case. Which shows again a very big aperture in this case.

I have highlighted very few loopholes in this case there are still many hidden mysteries in this case.

           So my earnest request to you all is don't think like a mute mind please try to look into this case from other perspective . Try to read reports and references available on different links . Also I will request you to read Avirook's book 'Aarushi' which addresses to the flaws of this case .He has extensively interviewed Major three institutions in connection to this case ie; Judges , CBI officials and key witnesses. He has done an in depth research in this case . This book has created an out rage amongst people against the system.

As there is one famous quote by Marcus Aurelius which states ;

" Everything we hear can be sometimes a opinion , not a fact .
  Everything we see can be a perspective , not always the truth "

In 2010 Court filed a closure report stating as lack of evidence , but In 2011 Nupur Talwar appealed for reopening of the case but little did they know that they will become prime suspects in this case. Now, The Talwars have been sentenced to life imprisonment by the lower court , appeal is pending at Allahabad High court .

Would like to share Avirook Sen's experience with Talwar's at Dasna jail .

( Nupur Talwar greeted me with a smile and before I could finish saying ' How are you? ' she smiled and replied ' We are veterans here now. We're experienced ! We are doing fine.....' and then Rajesh Talwar in a much quieter way replied ' We have to make do ....what choice do we have ? Just trying to understand why we are here , what is our destiny. ' )

Rajesh now got an opportunity to set up a small dental chair in the jail clinic, he is always in a state of disbelief by the thought that they have been called as murderers of their own child ' Aaru ' and servant 'Hemraj'. Nupur now looks devastated , ragged and tired . No proper food to eat and the Talwars always wonder what Aaru would feel if she saw us like this.

  Words written by Rajesh in his diary
 " Just no way to prove innocence. No one has proved anything in this case. Just that they are not satisfied by our reply . I miss Aaru so much. Can't imagine she's no more. I can feel the pain that she must have felt, and it leaves me helpless. I couldn't help her at all "