I was reading an article about a distressed newly married girl who was complaining about her life after marriage and yes a so called " in-laws " behavioral pattern. This compelled me to share some thoughts with you about this wrong belief that we have created around us.
When a girl gets married a silent thought starts cultivating in her mind that is " Now I have to suffer " but honestly speaking the mantra is " Don't accept suffer , accept people around you."
Acceptance
Its been observed that in most of the cases people have issues with their in-laws or vice versa (our in-laws have problem with us) it can be anything related to one's daily lifestyles, habits, likes dislikes, people complain, crib alot..etc. and the list goes on. Now we have two choices:
- To keep on thinking ( ye aise kyu hain, woh baat sunti nahin hain etc) we discuss this now and then with every species around us and in a very ironical way we say that ( main toh usko bahut pyar karti hun ya karta hun but woh aisi hain( she still has problem with me) etc...) so in this way we ourself discuss negativity and create a negative arena around us which leads to an extreme horrified situation .
- second choice left which I feel is the simple one is to ACCEPT a person for what he/she is.
In this way you will reduce the pain and energy you invested in being in the distressed situation. Like for instance; if you know that one of your family member doesn't like you and passes unacceptable comments so instead of arguing and creating an unhealthy situation around "ACCEPT" the person and start loving his/her positive traits. In this way you will find more inner peace whithin yourself.
Just say "FULLSTOP" and pass on a big smile to this pessimistic thought. Trust me you will find a radical change whithin yourself.
Friends Only one thought yes a single thought can change relationships of years now its upto you whether to make it a debt or a beautiful bond.
Many times you must have heard people saying " ki hum kabhi nahin bhool payenge unhone hamare saath jo kiya". But instead of recollecting these ill-fated thoughts if at this very moment you think and forget that whatever happened was past and I will forget and forgive everything and start a new relation with him/her you yourself and your immediate family will BENEFIT out of this as it is YOU who is carrying the agony, pain inside.
MORAL:
Before you FORGIVE FORGET first, ACCEPT and make your world, your family beautiful place to live.😃😃😃
