THE WOMAN WHO OVERCAME HER FEAR

     She never knew why Fear came to live with her – but he seemed to be with her constantly, so much so that she would not venture out of her house or speak to her friends or strangers.

     One day she decided, “I will go outside and meet with my friends.”

     But she only got to the door and Fear stood in her way, towering over her, laughing and saying, “You will never go out, just think what people might say. They might belittle you and make fun of you. Besides see it’s been a long gap and the world outside has changed. Best not to go.”

     The woman listened, and although she tried to argue, in the end she decided to agree with Fear. The next day she got up, thinking, ‘Today I will go outside and meet people around.’ But once again she was stopped in her tracks by Fear. This time she wrestled with him (the Fear) in an attempt to get to the door. But after hours of struggling she ended up deciding not to go.

     The next day, she got up thinking, ‘Today I will go out and meet the outside world.’ 

     Fear was as usual waiting at the door, but this time he didn’t look quite intimidating and she caught him off the guard. Knocking him (the Fear) off the balance, she pushed him over and ran through the door. She had a wonderful day meeting her friends, talking to strangers, buying household necessities, exploring ideas with people around and making plans about future endeavors. She gained victory over Fear, indeed Fear seemed to have vanished altogether.

     But then on the fourth day, while walking on the street she saw a street dog snarling and growling at her. The dog started running straight towards her, she stood for a moment transfixed with terror. Then apparently out of nowhere, Fear stepped up and grabbed her by the hand, pulling her along and helping her to run so fast that eventually she managed to escape.

     When they returned, Fear said, ‘I told you something bad will happen if you went outside. It will be good for you if you listen to me.’

     And the next day morning, when she awoke she saw Fear standing as large and menacing by the doorway. Somewhat timidly she approached him and said, ‘Fear, why have you become so large and menacing again?”

     Fear replied, “YOU MUST LEARN TO DEAL WITH ME EVERYDAY. AND YOU MUST LEARN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WHEN YOU NEED ME AND WHEN YOU DON’T.”

     ‘Ah now I understand,’ as soon as she uttered these words Fear shrank to the size of a tiny dwarf, she packed him up and now carries him in her pocket so that she can call him only when she is in need.

How to build confidence in your children?

  1. Thank you for helping me ..../ Wow ! you did it on your own!!/ I really appreciate your efforts:

          Friends these are small gestures and you must be thinking do I really need to always praise my  child, even for their smallest deed? Answer is " YES " 
          Studies show that when we praise the efforts / dedication of our child they are likely to make more progress and become more goal oriented. They will see challenges as hurdles and will try to work on the strategies that can make them face these obstacles effortlessly.  

Just think: how do you feel when you cook supper and family members praise your cooking?

  2.  You set a great example for those around you!

          Always Surround your child with positive, confident people. When children are around people who work hard and have a " can do" attitude, they are more likely to adopt a "can do" attitude as well.
          Especially when children are around others who are conquering similar challenges that they face, it can be more effective and powerful.

Just think:  how do you feel when you meet a depressing, negative, dejected person who has a complaining nature? Do you love talking to him/her daily?

  3.   Can you do this...?

           Give them a job. When children are given some responsibility , opportunity they get that internal boost that can't be attained in any other way. They feel more valuable and successful.

Just think:  How do you feel when you are given some responsibility to prove yourself?

 4.    Actually I can?

           Encourage your little one to set goals, when children set meaningful goals, they get driven by the excitement to achieve it and eventually earn the confidence that comes with goal achievement.

What are they interested in learning?

Ask them to jot down and devise a plan accordingly.

Just think:  When you feel mislead,directionless, who is the one with whom you discuss and seek suggestions ?

 5.    Believe you can and you're halfway there!

             When your children are feeling down, talk to them about what they have achieved with hard work and perseverance. Reminding them of the high grade they achieved on a tough test or the award they received for a sport or a contest would be a good initiative at your end.

Just think:  Did you ever participated in a race, remember when you were palpitating and  were  near the finishing line, you wanted to give up?

 Friends, you need to fill your child's bucket  of self Esteem so high that the rest of the world can't poke enough to drain it dry. 

Let's celebrate feminism by abandoning Abusive words

     

Mom you are my Originator and I Respect you

       Nowadays it has become a trend , a swagger quotient amongst the youths  . Many people feel proud to speak dirty words like (ma.....MotherF.... and behen... Fuc...) as a symbol of prestige and status. But there's always this thought that dwindles my mind time and again as why not words like FatherF and BrotherF are not so commonly used with the same intensity?
       

       A humble request to you all please don't use these words and also stop others from using the same. These are the weakest forms of expressions There are many ways by which we can express our anger and outrage let's desert this way.

Its Our thoughts that become words,these words lead to actions, and ultimately it is our Actions that frame our Destiny.

         Words portray your character your thought process. Have you ever thought why sexual crimes are rising sharply these days? The reason is we ourselves are polluting the minds and feeding the brains with such ill thoughts. Just think how will you feel if someone younger to you your sibling or your child adapt these words? It is we who are transmitting these filthy vibes to our younger generation. Friends " Be the CHANGE you want to see in the world. Start implementing it on self first "
         

         Today on this Women's day let's pledge that we won't be using such nasty words and will try our level best by conveying the same message to the people around us.

        One should not forget " It is a woman who has given you birth " At least for her sake let's take an oath to abandon such words that disrespect the integrity, the individuality of a person and to be more specific a WOMAN.

Its easy to break but difficult to make......accepting new relations

           

              I was reading an article about a distressed newly married girl who was complaining about her life after marriage and yes a so called " in-laws " behavioral pattern. This compelled me to share some thoughts with you about this wrong belief that we have created around us.

             When a girl gets married a silent thought starts cultivating in her mind that is " Now I have to suffer " but honestly speaking the mantra is " Don't accept suffer , accept people around you."

              Acceptance

Its been observed that in most of the cases people have issues with their in-laws or vice versa (our in-laws have problem with us) it can be anything related to one's daily lifestyles, habits, likes dislikes, people complain, crib alot..etc. and the list goes on. Now we have two choices:

1. To keep on thinking ( ye aise kyu hain, woh baat sunti nahin hain etc) we discuss this now and then with every species around us and in a very ironical way we say that  ( main toh usko bahut pyar karti hun ya karta hun but woh aisi hain( she still has problem with me) etc...) so in this way we ourself discuss negativity and create a negative arena around us which leads to an extreme horrified situation .
2. second choice left  which I feel is the simple one is to ACCEPT a person for what he/she is.

In this way you will reduce the pain and energy you invested in being in the distressed situation. Like for instance; if you know that one of your family member doesn't like you and passes unacceptable comments so instead of arguing and creating an unhealthy situation around "ACCEPT" the person  and start loving his/her positive traits. In this way you will find more inner peace whithin yourself.

Just say "FULLSTOP" and pass on a big smile to this pessimistic thought. Trust me you will find a radical change whithin yourself.

          Friends Only one thought yes a single thought can change  relationships of years now its upto you whether to make it a debt or a beautiful bond.

Many times you must have heard people saying " ki hum kabhi nahin bhool payenge unhone hamare  saath jo kiya". But instead of recollecting these ill-fated thoughts if at this very moment you think and forget that whatever happened was past and I will forget and forgive everything and start a new relation with him/her you yourself and your immediate family will BENEFIT out of this as it is YOU who is carrying the agony, pain inside.

MORAL:

Before you FORGIVE FORGET first, ACCEPT and make your world, your family beautiful place to live.😃😃😃

           

Kasams that I want from you....

   

    I always believe on one thought that we all live for our family, our near and dear ones but never live for ourselves that we girls are a big time dreamer , we parallely live in two different worlds one is our fantasy world and the second one is our real world .  I have always seen myself as an achiever, a believer of making my life and others life meaningful . I don't know what I will become where my destiny will make its way , but yes one thing I always want that when I return back home ( will meet God ) and if Almighty ask me " what you did back on earth ? " I should be able to justify the same.

    Now with my above starting pitch  you guys must have guessed it correctly that what "Kasam" Am I going to ask my " Khasam " ( syn: husband in urdu ) ??

Yes you guessed it Right I want his support his participation in my dream. I dont have a dream to become a crorepati and arabpati as it doesn't sound patni in end , Lol!!! Just kidding .

I have faced lot many loggerheads in my career , still facing. One can say just looking out answer as to why I am here on earth , exploring life . I have lot many ideas but nothing concrete all intangible .

Only one Kasam I need from you is " Please guide me , direct my dreams , badly need your support."

Its painful to see your dreams being killed each and every day , you feel suffocated makes breathing difficult , you struggle to survive each and every with a hope that your dream will come true some day.

     I have seen my hubby has reduced alot of weight these days as for many days even I was not around him so he missed home food . But yes I want one more Kasam from him I want him to take care of his health , I want him to keep himself motivated and be focused on what he loves and aspires to do. You know if one is not fit from outside he doesn't feel happy from inside. 

     Few lines for you Puneet " I don't  beleive on the seven vows , seven promises pheras taken around the Havan Kund. The only one eternal vow lets pledge together that we will be more of companions and best friends for the lifetime. As you know papa always say " Ek dusre ka purak bankar chalo " "Become complement of each other " Let's vow again of being together and make our love eternal and pure. " I'm blogging about the kasams I want from my man this Women's Day with the #SadaSexy activity at BlogAdda "

Rescue video of Lance Naik Hanumanthappa.

Lance Naik Hanumanthappa, was miraculously found alive under a 35 feet snow when an Avalanche was struck a week ago .

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/How-Lance-Naik-Hanumanthappa-Koppad-defied-certain-death-at-Siachen/articleshow/50925655.cms

      Wake up  Jawan !!! whole nation is praying for you . Shake off your coma....You have made it so far and reached Delhi Army hospital , Come on get up!!!! this is the last test and we all are standing by you .

      One needs unbreakable courage to guard these glacier borders where temperatures at times goes upto -200 degrees and patrolling 24x7 these freezy borders is itself an act of bravery.

      I heard many of my friends saying that what is the point in risking life of soldiers by deploying them in the Siachen . You know earlier for decades it was a tradition for Indian and Paki armies who would leave their bunkers during winters and neither of the armies misused this but Pakistan betrayed and took over Indian bunkers which led to Kargil war.

 

Hanumanthappa we couldn't save your 9 colleagues but yes a great salute to the men in your unit who must have a dug deeper down 30-40 feets hoping a survivor comrade every time and then left with disappointment everytime but yet gathering courage to look for next one until they found you Jawan.

   
My salute to you all men in uniform , your fighting spirit is much much taller than these scary snow clad dominating glaciers ....

We are waiting to hear from you Brave son.... Get up ..... every Indian longing to see you back in the battle field....

My perceptions about Sunny Leone...

      Last week I saw Sunny Leone's promotional interview on CNN-IBN with Bhupendra Chaubey. He posed out some annoying questions to her in a very nasty manner but Sunny tackled whole interview in a very sparkling and witty way .
   
Personally I was deeply touched and highly impressed by this young lady, the most googled celebrity of India " Karenjit Kaur Vohra " yes she comes from a NRI typical punjabi family born and brought up in a small village of Canada. She was working as a pediatric nurse , also she did a part time job in a tax consultant firm and at the tender age of 19 yr she became a penthouse model and slowly dynamically she reached the pinnacle of her business. Though her parents were shattered when they came to know about her career and they had to bear all the grunts and grudges and were excommunicated by the extended family and society around,

     Throughout this interview you will see her a loveable lady who doesn't disowned her past , she is not at all apologetic about her past decisions , she looked into the eye of the interviewer and replied to all sorts of weird questions cited to her.

     And this interview at the end removed all my preconcepts and blinkers about this lovely adult entertainer and made me feel sheepish about my observations and notions about this industry.
I just felt how at times people become an empty headed, nonsensical humans wherein on one side people criticize and blame her for spoiling Indian minds but the fact is they are the ones who are sitting on the smart phones and laptops enjoying her pornography when their wives turn their back.

Friends she herself admits that Pornography is just a fantasy , a crafted material . There is no message that I want to impart by this post but yes I have learnt one simple dictum " Don't judge a person by his profession instead start loving him as a human "

Just sharing link of the Interview anchored by Bhupendra Chaubey
http://www.ibnlive.com/videos/movies/would-change-nothing-about-my-career-even-if-i-could-go-back-in-time-sunny-leone-1190344.html