How to build confidence in your children?

  1. Thank you for helping me ..../ Wow ! you did it on your own!!/ I really appreciate your efforts:

          Friends these are small gestures and you must be thinking do I really need to always praise my  child, even for their smallest deed? Answer is " YES " 
          Studies show that when we praise the efforts / dedication of our child they are likely to make more progress and become more goal oriented. They will see challenges as hurdles and will try to work on the strategies that can make them face these obstacles effortlessly.  

Just think: how do you feel when you cook supper and family members praise your cooking?

  2.  You set a great example for those around you!

          Always Surround your child with positive, confident people. When children are around people who work hard and have a " can do" attitude, they are more likely to adopt a "can do" attitude as well.
          Especially when children are around others who are conquering similar challenges that they face, it can be more effective and powerful.

Just think:  how do you feel when you meet a depressing, negative, dejected person who has a complaining nature? Do you love talking to him/her daily?

  3.   Can you do this...?

           Give them a job. When children are given some responsibility , opportunity they get that internal boost that can't be attained in any other way. They feel more valuable and successful.

Just think:  How do you feel when you are given some responsibility to prove yourself?

 4.    Actually I can?

           Encourage your little one to set goals, when children set meaningful goals, they get driven by the excitement to achieve it and eventually earn the confidence that comes with goal achievement.

What are they interested in learning?

Ask them to jot down and devise a plan accordingly.

Just think:  When you feel mislead,directionless, who is the one with whom you discuss and seek suggestions ?

 5.    Believe you can and you're halfway there!

             When your children are feeling down, talk to them about what they have achieved with hard work and perseverance. Reminding them of the high grade they achieved on a tough test or the award they received for a sport or a contest would be a good initiative at your end.

Just think:  Did you ever participated in a race, remember when you were palpitating and  were  near the finishing line, you wanted to give up?

 Friends, you need to fill your child's bucket  of self Esteem so high that the rest of the world can't poke enough to drain it dry.